Love Series: Not Now

At some point we must let go of the reigns of control of our lives and let God do whatever He wants to do, especially in heart matters. I am learning to do just that. I TRUST GOD.

I am learning that whoever and wherever my mate is, and whatever he is going through now, is working for my (our) good. If he must pass through something else to make him a better man for me, so be it! God knows what He is doing. I know it. I know things are not ready. I KNOW IT.  There is so much that is not right and unfinished. So there is no reason to fret. I see the signs. So I am going to let it be. My focus is to prepare for who God has for me. After all who wants a cake that is not fully baked (I’m talking about myself).

Preparation for me may take the form of dating another man. I am open to that. It may happen. God may want to send someone to restore the damage that has been done. I’m okay with that. I am just resting in what God showed me. And I have to keep quiet because God is fighting for me.

I don’t care if God has to deal with folks in dreams, visions, send prophetic words, thunder storms, etc…lol whatever. God is going to clearly communicate His will to whomever he has for me. First the whisper, then the louder voice and then the evening news. lol (I hope not).

I’m glad I’ve remained guarded with my heart. There is nothing worse with opening your heart too soon, only to not be able to go further. I’ve had it happen and it’s painful. Wait until it’s time!

Surrender your love life to God today! I am surrendering mine. I am on the road to intense preparation. No more passivity!

Song of Solomon 8:4

Amplified Bible (AMP)

4 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you never [again attempt to] stir up or awaken love until it pleases.



What’s Missing?

couple 2I had a bit of a rough week. I thought I was only feeling down because of Mother’s Day, but later realized that was only part of it. I was paging through Facebook, only to see pictures of a bunch of mothers-to-be, and then it hit me. It was not only missing my mother that was affecting me, it is also that fact that motherhood has eluded me.

blake-livelys-engagement-ring-lookalikes-neil-lane-ovalI don’t want to sound bitter, but I wonder how you can live right and do it just as the Bible has said, and then be denied a family? These are the things that can come to test your faith.

I understand why people get discouraged and have difficulty continuing with God (not me, but I can understand it). It’s the things that are missing from our lives that can sometimes rock our faith.

beach-wedding-2For me, I really believed that God had spoken to me about marriage, but I realize now, if that were the case, that person would know as well and if a man spends his time wooing and encouraging someone else, or divided in his heart, that is not  the case.

Big_single-family_home_2So what’s missing?  I’m sure most of us can think of something. Lately, I’ve thought that perhaps what is missing will never come, but then God assures me that it will. I am not putting a name or face to Boaz, but I know that MY Boaz will COME. I just have to wait for it.

triplets 2Whatever is missing, just wait! Everything is beautiful in HIS TIME. Not ours!

Philippians 4:6

New International Version (NIV)

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

Ecclesiastes 3:11

New International Version (NIV)

11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet[a] no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

The Timing of God

security-consequencesI have learned that because I warn people, it doesn’t mean they will see the result immediately. Sometimes it’s about a series of events that must take place. God knows what people are going to do and God knows if they will heed the warning. But that does not mean a warning should not go out.

So the Lord may say, “don’t do that, or don’t go here” and the person still goes and nothing happens. Well does that mean the warning was wrong? Absolutely not. It just means when the consequence does come, God is going to remind them later on down the road “remember, I warned you”.

I once warned someone of something and the result came 22 years later. By then the repercussion was so painful, it nearly killed the person.

I am smart enough to know that a warning will not stop someone who is bent on doing something. But the warning still must come. It could be so that the person will learn and heed a warning next time.

I just know today I am free and I am happy about!

Hebrews 3:15

New Revised Standard Version (NRSV)

15 As it is said,

“Today, if you hear his voice,
do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion.”

Two Are Set to Die!

jailI just read the above words and boy did they hit me prophetically and get my mind to working. It immediately made me remember a dream someone shared with me about two funerals and how nothing could happen until these TWO funerals took place.

It also reminded me of former situation where a young lady “followed her dreams” and ended up in jail and God told me the same may (I hope not) happen to another woman. As I am observing this situation, it’s seem IDENTICAL to the other. First the woman fell in “love” with the a man. Then he disappoints them. Then they start admonishing him on his disobedience to God in not marrying them and then they move to be close to him and then something devastating happens to the woman

Last year my house was about to be auctioned off twice. The first time was scary, but I received a cancellation letter on a Saturday and the auction was set for Monday. God did it! Second time was not as scary. All the Lord had to say (and He did) was “I’m going to do it again and it happened.’ And the second time was not the last minute.

Just like God doing it again with my house, I see God doing it again concerning another situation. This has to runs it’s course. This time, I am going to trust Him and keep proclaiming what God is telling me right here. I hate to see someone else go to jail, but if that is what it’s going to take SO BE IT!

Yes, TWO “dreams” have been set to die! Next post will be about how your dreams can deceive you.

God Knows Something We Don’t Know.

I was observing this “situation” from afar and wondering why this couple can’t be together. Look, I’m all for what people say they want. Now I know we can romanticized stuff all day long, but I was just wondering why? Being nosey. But I heard the Lord say, it wouldn’t last and honestly I can believe it.

Some women idolize men and then when the reality of it hits, it’s too much for them to handle. Also some women coddle men and that is not good to do. It just kind of reinforces the madness. Yes, I’m all for “loving people” but remember, even Jesus whipped the money changers out of the temple. There needs to be balance.

30 blogs to help you get through a divorceSometimes things looks so good on paper, but then when you get up close you begin to see the truth. Well honestly, I will’ take the Lord’s words for it because I was thinking why not?

I know Christian people want to marry so they can have sex “legally” and that is noble. But do you really have the character to stay faithful in that marriage? Sometimes that is big reason God does not allow us to move forward either. Listen if you have fornicated recently (any kind of sex outside of marriage), you are NOT ready for marriage!

And I am a firm believer in deliverance before marriage. I know a lot of people don’t even believe they can be delivered because nobody is preaching about it anymore, but you better get delivered or else you might end up like Oscar Pistorious. He’s the athlete that ended up fatally shooting his girlfriend. I don’t know what happened, but something was wrong if he shot his girlfriend in the bathroom.

I once BEGGED God to marry this man. lol Yes, I did and in the midst of that season, I had an experience that gave me clarity and rocked me to the core. I heard the audible voice of God in a dream (that has only happened twice) and it was one word: DIVORCE. I didn’t want to accept it  but God was letting me know that if I married that man, it would not last and I believe it. It took a while to accept it, but I believe it.

God is not opposed to us finding and having love, but he wants it to last and that is why some of us are still single. We are not ready for a lasting relationship. And if we would just be honest with ourselves, we know it’s the truth.

Well, as I speculated about these two people all I know is that GOD knows something about it we don’t know or as I like to say “Father knows best”.

Wait on the Lord! As you wait, it will all be revealed. Just wait! It won’t be much longer!

Malachi 2:16

Amplified Bible (AMP)

16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].

A Timely Word!!

rejectedI was reading something that a character wrote about me and it was not good. It made me feel bad…BUT INSTANTLY, while I was reading those words, I was listening to my NEW CHURCH via web/phone and the Pastor stopped in the middle of the message and said:

Sheila, God wants you to know you are a KIND and BEAUTIFUL person!!!

Whatcha gonna say now!!  The Lord took away what someone who doesn’t really know me said about me. God who really knows me has spoken!

Honestly, you can’t be concerned about the opinion of someone who hasn’t really taken the time to get to know you and who won’t acknowledge what they too have done wrong. Sometimes it’s better to be rejected. If the abuse I’ve seen recently is love, I want to say NO THANKS!

JESUS! That’s why I love HIM!

God is so good!!!