It Ain’t Nothing But a Soul-tie

Soul-ties can be formed in many ways. Soul-ties are strong bonds that develop between people, who spend time together and they can be form any way. You can develop a soul-tie from being on the phone with someone or, being in their presence and yes, even being online.

There are non-physical soul-ties, and then there a physical ties, which are developed through having sex. That is why relationships where sex is involved, are hard to break. And that is why sex before marriage is a sin. Sex is reserved for marriage and it’s meant to bond a married couple together.

I have been asking the Lord some questions about something and honestly, I’ve know the answer, but I had to hear it again. So my Pastor got a word of knowledge identifying it as a soul-tie and honestly, I need to just deal with this in the spirit. I don’t know why I am expecting someone else to deal with something that they are helpless to do.

I remember before a family member of mine married,her mate, he was involved in a physical relationship with another woman, that was hindering him from moving toward his God-given mate. She fasted and prayed (SHE had to do it) and he came out and they are married and happy to this day.

God told me that would be my journey and I need to just do this, because I am oh so tired of looking at this stuff. But anyway, some things that we are looking at “ain’t nothing but a soul-tie” and someone has to break it and I guess that would be me. Let the fasting begin. 🙂

Dealing with a soul-tie that just won’t seem to break? Trying fasting.

Isaiah 58:6

King James Version (KJV)

6 Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?

Love Series: The Breaking of a Soul-tie Pt. 2

I’ve not been posting like I should because I had to catch up on my rest (not sleeping). I also was thinking  it was not necessary, but even after God speaks, we still have to walk it out. The assignment is not over.

Now here is how you break relationship soul-ties:

1. You put DISTANCE between you and the person you can’t seem to let go of. When God told me that Pastor was not the one for me, I left the church. There was no reason for me to be around him anymore. When you are breaking a soul-tie, you need to stop communicating. It may seem like you are being rude, but the first step is to distance yourself, by not being in that persons presence, and or not responding to their emails, text messages or calls. Delete them off Facebook, twitter, etc. You don’t need to keep up with what is going on with them if you are trying to break a tie.

2. Resist the temptation of telling them “let’s just be friends”. I never could understand people who remain friends with their ex. Perhaps it’s an insecurity thing. They don’t want the person to be mad at them. But remaining friends with ex. is dangerous in my opinion, especially when you have been involved sexually. There is ALWAYS that chance of restarting the relationship up again.

3.Redirect your attention to something else. I didn’t say someone else, I said SOMETHING else. The reason I say that is because if you move on to someone else, it’s just a rebound relationship and that is not fair to the person who you are using to get over your ex.

4. Focus your attention on GOD for a change. Especially, if you are someone who goes from one relationship to another. Perhaps it’s time to be alone for once in your life.I have a relative who was like that. He started setting up his next relationship when he knew he was leaving his current one. Well that is juvenile and immature.

5. Pray and fast. Nothing will break a tie faster than prayer and fasting.God is able to easily disconnect you from someone you shouldn’t be with. God has a way of breaking up the fantasy and let you see why you can’t be with that person.

6.Be clear about your intentions. Don’t tell someone, “we’re not done” when you know that you are. Stop sending mixed messages and be very strong in your resolve. Tell the person, “yes, I care about your deeply, but I don’t want to waste you time because I know we don’t have a future together.

7. Finally, stop fantasizing about the wedding, the honeymoon, the children and what life is or was going to like. Fantasy, is a dangerous practice because if God changes your course, you are left with a FALSE imagination  Yes, you also have to break the soul-tie in your imagination as well.

God is ready to break the soul-tie, but are you ready to allow it to be broken? If you aren’t get ready, He is about to do it NOW. Waiting will only make it worse!

Love Series: The Breaking of a Soul-tie

God knows how to break soul-ties. Especially a tie that He is not going to use in your future. Depending on how deep the tie is and how long it has been going on, is what determines how difficult this process will be.

I shared about my relationship with a former Pastor (single) and how much I wanted to marry him (he wanted me too) and even after God spoke to me to let it go, it took about a year for that tie to break. God spoke loud and clear and there was no bargaining with the Lord. No means no.

Even if I saw this man today, I might remember, but I would never go back to that because that tie has long since been broken. I don’t believe I would even be tempted. But some ties are so deep, it sometimes takes something bad to break it and that is because that tie would become a threat to the future

Let me share a story with you, just to let you know, how true that is. I was having lunch with a woman who was once engaged to a relative of mine and as we talked she began to tell me that she thought she would still end up with my relative even though she was married (with a child) and so was my relative!!!! That is what I call a dangerous soul-tie.

Years had passed and she was still hoping to be with my relative. I’ve seen it time and time again. Women, unable to let go, waiting for that mans current mate to die, so they can step back into place. It’s so sad. But in all of the cases I’ve seen this (quite a few), it’s never once happened. But what it did to the women, was ruin their current relationship because they could not let go of their former lover.

I will never marry anyone who has that kind of bond. It would have to be completely severed, and I mean destroyed with no possible chance of it coming back together and that usually means something tragic will have to happen.

I’ve seen God do it in the past by someone ending up locked up and now I understand why God was showing something like this may have to happen again. When you bind yourself to someone by using the words “twin soul” or “soul-mate”, and it’s not God’s will, usually only a tragedy can sever that bond, so that you will be free to move on and be happy about it. But it doesn’t have to end that way. But the key is to LET GO!

1 Samuel 18:1

King James Version (KJV)

18 And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

Love Series: Break that Soul-tie!

I’ve lamented about something, but it’s like the Lord was trying to get me to “put on my big girl panties” and stop acting like a little girl. Stuff happens. Men fall for wrong women all the time.

It’s like that wife whose husband is being unfaithful. You have to make up your mind that you either want him or you don’t. And once you decide, you do what it takes to get him back. Now I know that is easier said than done. And I have never been married, but I understand the concept.

Now God has spoken to me for a couple of weeks now and I know he is telling me if I fast and pray, that bond (soul-ie) that I am looking at WILL BREAK. But someone has to care enough to do the work and that would be me.

You have to get past the pain of rejection, the wanting to find someone else for revenge and just plain old being hurt and fight for what God says belongs to you!

I don’t recommend fighting in the natural, with people. Try prayer and fasting first. Then after that, if there is something you can do in the natural, do that.

I was reading in this book how this woman’s husband was being unfaithful and an older woman counselled the wife and told her to say nothing, but just spruce herself up and try to win him back. Well that was bad advice in my opinion. It’s the route of denial. Needless to say the couple divorced.

I am going to stop pouting and begin to FIGHT in the realm of the spirit and watch it manifest in the natural and STEER CLEAR. 🙂

Love Series: The Problem With Fornication

This is a repeat. We constantly need be reminded of this truth.

Love Series: The Problem With Fornication.

Love Series: The Problem With Fornication

I was thinking about how wise our God is and why He gives us certain rules. Lately, I’ve been encountering a few friends and acquaintances who are dealing with the aftermath of a break-up. Some are recent and others are not. Breaking up is hard to do, but the reason that these particular break-ups are so difficult is because fornication was involved.

When you have sex before marriage, you basically marry the person without the license and that is the reason that one or two years later, people are still pining away for their ex. And often people are bound to and can’t get over a person that they are not even supposed to be with.

I was asking the Lord about why someone I knew of can’t seem to get over their ex and move on and the Lord simply said, “they are not single yet”. They are still bound to that person by a soul-tie of the flesh. Sadly sometimes the other individual has moved onto another relationship, and the ex is still pining away for them.

I remember years ago, the ex of a relative of mine was married for YEARS and she still  had an expectation of getting back together with my relative. I remember sitting in a restaurant listening to her tell me this crazy story and thinking “what is wrong with the woman”? She couldn’t seem to let it go.  I also had a friend who married and thought God was telling her that her husband would die and she would get back with ex. This is the problem with fornication. Some people seem like they will never get over their ex.

Finally, fornication brings an element of delusion as well. I have heard more people glamourized their former relationship and make it seem like it was so special, when that was not the case at all. I know of one man who is pining away for his ex, when he actually recently found out that she cheated on him in the last year of their relationship. Yet, now he misses her smile and her laugh. Oh really? But she wasn’t even faithful!!! What kind of wife would she have made? See the delusion? This is also the problem with fornication.

People of God, His way is the best way and the only way! Living a pure life before God in your relationship is the key to having a successful relationship and marriage.

1 Corinthians 6:18:

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

1 Corinthians 7:2:

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

1 Thessalonians 4:3:

3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: