Love Series: No Longer Selfish

The other day my Pastor spoke a timely word, and God showed me I was selfish. Someone was talking and I was afraid to respond. I was not purposely being selfish, just afraid to respond.

But the sermon was clear that love gives with no account of what is returned. This is a hard concept to put into place. Most of us are conditioned to responding to what is given to us. But I feel God freeing me. There are a lot of things that I have to be taught. It doesn’t always come naturally. But I know I have it in me to love unconditionally.

I’m excited! It will be nice to love someone unconditionally. God knows! It’s just like me driving. It just feel so natural and I am so comfortable. It just feels right. I feel that way about this love that God has given me. It just feels like now is the time to show that love!

1 Corinthians 13:4-6

New International Version (NIV)

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Love Series: Only You!

I wrote this, this morning and didn’t post:

It’s so funny. If a man says to you ” it’s only you”, you are going to think he means it’s only you right? Well sometimes that man is letting you know that you have NOT been the only one and he is trying to convince you and himself that it’s now only you! lol

I was looking at something recently and wondering what it was all about. I was thinking, perhaps this is real and I need to rethink what I heard, But then the truth came out and God showed me that this so-called love that I was looking at was not love at all. GOD showed it to me. I don’t care what someone says. Actions speak louder than words.

If a man really loves you, he will not be sleeping with other women case closed period. And if he says he loves you and that is what he does, trust me he doesn’t know what love is about. He may have an affection for you, he may want to love you, but he doesn’t love you.

Men make all kinds of excuses about their behavior. But the bottom line is a cheater is not in love with you. Women divorce their husbands because of cheating. Well why marry a cheater? And don’t fall for that, it was in my past when it was 3 wks ago. It takes more than a minute to break a soul-tie. Personally, if a man runs from the bed of another woman into your arms SOMETHING IS WRONG! Run! This is a man who has yet to learn what true love is about.

Watch when he says only you, it’s because you are not the only one!

Love Series: A Guarded Heart

I’m still on my happy high! God has been good and I can see so clearly now. It only took me seeking the Lord and him showing me that things are NOT what they seem.

My heart is guarded and with good reason. I’m waiting for a love that is true and I know what it will look like. First, it will not be saying “I love you” to someone else. He will not be waiting for ME to woo him. A grown up man and a grown up love will pursue me and won’t be expecting me to get his attention away from someone else.

People have strange ideas about love and relationships, which in no way resembles what God has for us. Ladies, if you see him interacting with someone else, leave him alone. Men are funny. They will act like you left them alone, when the truth is they left you alone. And I don’t know on what planet, its acceptable for you to try to woo him away from someone else. If he is not that into you, just keep it moving. It’s on HIM, not YOU!

If he is in another relationship, then that is his choice. Expecting you to do something to get his attention away from someone else is not the way to go. If you get him that way, you will lose him the same way.

If a man wants you in his life, you’ll be in his life. And if he doesn’t, you won’t be and that is okay. And don’t you DARE pick up and move for a man who has not put a ring on it and is not backing a UHAUL truck up to your door! DON’T YOU DARE!

Love will find you. Remember how valuable you are! Let him win you, woo you, love you and pry open your heart. God will send him at the right time. YOUR BOAZ  Will COME. Until that time keep you heart guarded.

P.S. My heart is open to love. It’s just I will know it when I see it!

Proverbs 4:23

New International Version (NIV)

23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.

Love Series: The Journey to Love

If you read my site regularly, you know that my guilty pleasure is some reality TV (don’t judge me, lol). So tonight was the season finale of the Bachelorette, the long running dating reality show. Either a Bachelor, or Bachelorette, have the opportunity to date someone from a pool of about 25 candidates, in an attempt to find love. I think to date about 3 couples have actually married and there are two couples engaged to be married.

This season the Bachelorette, Desiree Hartstock, a former contestant from the Bachelor show, had an interesting ride, but I have to say it was one of my favorite seasons. Even though it’s reality TV, it’s reflects real life.

So the Bachelorette was down to her last three men and it became apparent that she was more in love with one of the men then the other two, but guess what happened? He was not on the same page and in the end he bowed out and broke her heart. What was interesting was the other two men were in love with her. But it was so hard for her to recover, the question was, could she move on and still find love with one of the other two? You would think not. The ending was so surprising. It’s like that heartbreak was necessary so that she could see the man who really loved her all along. The end had me in tears. You see, sometimes we want someone and they just don’t want us and if you can just get past that, you may see who God really has for you.

I know it’s just a TV show, but I found myself having faith in love and that love will find me. I have no name or face on that person anymore and the truth is, I haven’t for a very long time. I just think it’s important to be open to LOVE. I was so focused on “what God said” that I forgot about FALLING IN LOVE.

I’m excited now. I’m excited that at the end of the day, God is going to write the end of my love story. Through rejection, we can end up finding someone precious. The  man who Desiree ended up engaged to is just that; precious. He continued to love Desiree through it all and he was the one for her.

I have to say, in my opinion that works best when a man does it. You could see her heart healing because, she had never been loved back when she was in love. I can identify with that. But somewhere out there is a person who will love us back the way we need to be loved. I for one am excited to see who that is!!

Song of Songs 1-4

New International Version (NIV)

1 Solomon’s Song of Songs.

She[a]

2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
for your love is more delightful than wine.
3 Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
your name is like perfume poured out.
No wonder the young women love you!
4 Take me away with you—let us hurry!
Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Love Series: Love and Kindness!

I got my instructions and I know what to do and it ain’t gonna be online either!! God gave me specific instructions and a visual of how he wants me to treat my mate and it is about up close and personal. I am so over the internet!

So it’s going to love and kindness and more kindness and love and then more LOVE and more KINDNESS!!!

AND after that more LOVE AND KINDNESS AND LOVE…

THEN YOU MAY HAVE A LITTLE TIFF, BUT AFTER THAT MORE LOVE AND KINDNESS!! LOL

1 Corinthians 13:4-6

New Living Translation (NLT)

⁴ Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud ⁵ or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. ⁶ It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

 

That Thing Called Love

It’s Valentines day, a day in which we focus and think about the ones we love. I had forgotten about the day until I put the news on this morning. For me it’s just another day. I am not upset that I don’t have anyone in my life. One day I will but for now I have to make myself content.

There are so many definitions of what love is. It shouldn’t be that complicated, but in the world it is. A lot of times you learn what love is, by learning what it’s not. Here some things that love is NOT:

1. Love is not talk over cyberspace. So many people have gotten caught up in what I call cyber infatuation. They get in deep relationships with people they don’t really know and have never even met. You’ve never spent a minute with that person, but yet they are in love.

2. Love is not sex. I remember seeing this movie and the character was saying love is being too tired to get up the next morning (inferring that you are too tired from making love). Well that is not love. When you love someone, sex (within marriage) is an expression of love. But it’s not love.

3. Love is not words. People may say they love you, but actions speak louder than words. It’s what a person does, that proves their love for you. You can say I love you till the cows come home, but if there is no action behind it, I doubt it’s real love. When you love someone, you want to show them. It’s not about lip service.

I’ve seen some strange things that people call love. I’ve seen people say they love each other, but they sleep with other people. Well that is not genuine. If you really love someone, why are you sexually involved with someone else?

Love is not obsession. Sometimes you can love someone, but you might need to let them go. If they are meant to be in your life, God will do it. There is nothing more liberating than to accept that you may not end up with the one you love or want. Love never possesses.

I am going to allow God to bring me a love that is true. Actually that is what I am doing. And ladies, make sure he really loves you. There is nothing worse than a woman wooing a man in my opinion. Men should not be pursued. You may win him for a minute, but then he will move on, to what he really wants.

God is love and he knows who and what is best for us. Trust HIM to bring you that true love!

1 Corinthians 13:13

New International Version (NIV)

¹³ And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.