Great, Powerful and Flawed

I have a decided to start reading more. When I was younger, I used to order books from the school book club and couldn’t wait for them to come. It was like Christmas for me. Then, after I went to bed, I would crack my bedroom door open, so that I could get light from the hallway and sneak and read my books under the covers. That is how much I loved reading.

I have to say that I stopped reading for a while for a few reasons, which I won’t go into, but now suddenly, I have an insatiable appetite for reading. Right now I’m interested in Dr. Martin Luther King Jr, President John F. Kennedy, Malcolm X and Maya Angelou. I’m also getting ready to go back to school and get my degree. It’s my biggest regret that I did not finish college. But that is about to change.

But that is not what this blog is about. I’ve made a new commitment to write on this blog again, but my posts will not resemble anything from the past. That is done and I’m on to a new future. I am going to finish school, write a few books and read, read, read. Which brings me to the book I just got finished reading.

The name of the book was called “I Shared the Dream” by Georgia Davis Powers. Georgia, who was the first Black senator and first woman senator in the state of Kentucky. She was elected in 1967 and served for 21 years. But I must admit that the reason I read the book is because I read she had an affair with Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Many people don’t want to accept this, but Georgia was with Dr. King the night before he was assassinated. I know this to be true only because my oldest brother was mentored by a minister who was in Dr. Kings inner circle. This man confirmed it to my brother.

I remember when I first heard about Dr. Kings infidelities, I was shocked like most people. I remember my Dad, who drove cab in NY for many years telling us how he picked up Dr. King in his cab and how Dr. King lit up a cigarette and he was surprised and we were too (when he told us). But it’s also true, Dr. King was a smoker.

Well as I read Georgia Powers book, I started thinking about men and how there is nothing worse than putting another human being on a pedestal. Women, I think, have this problem more than men. And don’t let him be a man of wealth, prestige or fame. We go nuts!

Georgia was a few years older than Dr. King, middle aged, separated from her husband and not feeling very good about herself. And boom. This civil rights icon wants to take their friendship to another level and she just could not resist. It didn’t help that she had a dream that she was intimate with him, even though, she never had those feeling about him before. I have real issues with cheating, but I actually saw and understood how this could happen to a woman. Even me.

The affair part of their relationship lasted about a year until Dr. Kings death and I believe she was the last woman with him before he died. Not even his wife had been with him (and I mean both physically and sexually). The book dealt with much more than their affair. I found it quite interesting to hear the behind the scenes during that time and also about her own political career.

She seemed to gloat a bit, which women tend to do, when they have been singled out by a “special” man. You can tell that she thought she was the only mistress, but sadly, that is just not true. She also seemed unrepentant. Almost like it was her destiny to be intimate with this great man. I think she had a right to tell her story, but I have to say I was disappointed that she chose to tell it while Coretta Scott King was still alive.

It’s so hard for us to see our “heroes” this way. For many it takes away from their greatness and I have to say I have felt that way. But when we choose to see our heroes as they are, which is human, we will be able to see the good and the bad and appreciate them for what they did.

Georgia Davis Powers was very flawed like us all. She was a serial cheater, but she did a lot for civil rights and the state of Kentucky. She will have to stand before God for how she lived in her personal life as we all will. She is 91 years old still living with her husband.


Love Series: About Cheating

Mary-Mary-Tina-Teddy-CampbellThe internet is abuzz with talk of Gospel Singer Tina Campbell’s (Mary Mary) husbands admission of cheating with countless woman. Award winning group Mary Mary have a reality show on WETV and Facebook and Twitter are weighing in on whether or not she should take her husband back.

At first when I heard about it and read her story in Ebony magazine, I admired her courage to try to mend her marriage. Like Tina, I believe that infidelity does not necessarily mean the end of a marriage. I know plenty of couples who have gone through it and are still together to this day. But later more details emerged and it was soon learned that Tina’s husband was unfaithful with a “friend” of the family. Hmmm, that stings…but maybe still they can work it out. After all they have 4 children together.

But the truth has come out that there were several woman and that is when I started thinking differently. Last night (on the show) when Teddy Campbell allowed his wife to believe that things were mending and that it was only one affair I had to change my opinion. I watched the show as Tina’s husband admitted to his brother-in-law that there had been “countless affairs”. Not to insult anyone’s intelligence, but countless means, too numerous to count. That means he lost count which to me sounds like a sexual addiction.

No matter what you think about reality TV, Christians etc, this is definitely an education for the masses. I am shocked at the number of Christians who speak of forgiveness and staying married in a situation like this. Forgiveness is one thing, but staying married is another. It also shows how little Christians know about scripture. One reason for ending a marriage is adultery. And yes, God hates divorce, but when a Christian man cheats “through half of his wifes pregnancies” with women too numerous to count, this is the time to end the marriage. And trust me, I am not a pro-divorce person.

I say this because this man has been irresponsible and has subjected the mother of his children to not only humiliation, but also disease. It’s so sad to see.

Tina’s has spoken out and said she takes full responsibility for her contribution to the problems in the marriage, but no such statement has been given by her husband. Also, when she made the statement I don’t think she knew the extent of her husbands infidelity.

I started thinking long and hard about this subject and started praying for my future mate. I am asking God to uproot any propensity toward adultery out of his spirit NOW. Once he knows the will of God concerning us, it’s time to reel it in. And if he can’t do it, I pray God give him the lesson of all lessons. Like this Pastor’s wife once did, She prayed against adultery in her marriage and just when her husband was about to meet with a woman to cheat, HE GOT STRUCK BY LIGHTENING. lol True story. Needless to say, he has NEVER been unfaithful. Yes, I’m praying for lightening. lol

I’ve been hearing a lot about cheating lately. Once you are married, engaged or even God’s will has been revealed, if you go in another direction you are cheating. Don’t test God because if you do, there will always be consequences.

Matthew 5:32

New International Version (NIV)

32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Matthew 5:27-28

New International Version (NIV)


27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[a] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.



Love Series: I’m Getting Married!

No, not me, but a friend of mine is getting married. I posted a picture of this beautiful model by the name of Gelila. I love this picture.

Wedding’s always evoke emotions in people. Some people get happy, others get sad, but if you have ever been to a wedding, you know they tend to evoke an emotional response, particularly in women.

We all want the “prince charming” to come into our lives. But the older I get the more I realize that there is no such thing. Men are imperfect and so are women. So we have to get out of that fantasy mindset.

I was watching a docudrama about infidelity and all of the stories started happily with a wedding and a beautiful bride and the announcement “I’m getting married!” But they all ended with cheating.

One day I will  utter those words. but when I do, I will go into it with my eyes wide open.

Genesis 2:24 King James Version (KJV)

24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

The Danger of “No Absolutes”

Yesterday, I was watching the Oprah show and her guest was Rielle Hunter, the mistress of former presidential candidate, John Edwards. I have to say even though I admire Oprah as a business woman, I was so disappointed that she chose to give this woman an hour of televison time.

As I watched the show my disappointment was confirmed, as Rielle Hunter was totally unrepentant concerning the role she played in being in an adulterous relationship. As I listened, it was clear that she was involved in some distorted “New Age” kind of teaching, and unfortunately there were no absolutes.

In today’s world there is no right or wrong. Rielle Hunter saw nothing wrong with getting involved with a married man because her “truth” was that she loved this man and thought they were soul-mates, so somehow this made adultery alright.

The Bible is clear about right and wrong particularly where infidelity is concerned. Adultery is never right. And there are a lot of other things that are wrong which God has let us know about through His Word.

As Christians let us not get sucked into the enemies trap of “no absolutes.”

Matthew 5:27-28

You have heard that it was said, “Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone that looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Beware of distractions

It’s amazing how seemingly innocent things can become major distractions. I enjoy watching a little bit of entertainment news. Programs like Extra, and Entertainment Tonight. I like to keep up with pop culture because I think it’s important in order to be relevant. I’m a stickler for Christians knowing what is going on in the world around them. But lately the Lord was showing me how those programs are a distraction. I don’t watch everything. I usually tape it and pick and choose what I watch, but lately it’s really been a lot of salacious garbage about who is cheating on whom. Not so innocent.

Friends, some of these seemingly innocent things that we do are nothing more than distractions. I’ve found myself very concerned about marriage and cheating because of this junk that I was filling my mind with. So what if Tiger Woods and Jessie James cheated on their wives? What does that have to do with us and God’s Kingdom? Absolutely nothing. Beware of distractions!

SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by Marsha Burns — March 25, 2010:

Be alert and watch for distractions that will divert your focus from being led and moved by My Spirit to worldly concerns. This is always a tactic of the enemy to keep you from purity and power, but it is beginning to take on a dimension that creates fear through fascination as a seduction away from kingdom purpose. You can quite easily overcome this temptation by staying close to the truth of My Word, says the Lord.

Galatians 6:14 But God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world.