So there is man that lives in my building and he is interested in me, but I am not interested in him. He’s not bad looking and he’s funny but we just don’t have much in common. And there is no spiritual connection at all. He would be a nice friend, but I know he is looking for more than friendship.
Sometimes when you are bored or lonely you find yourself considering people that you probably should not. But I realize that if I go out with him, he will get the wrong impression and think that I am interested, but the truth is I’m not. I’m flattered, but just not interested.
I have a counselor in my building who I see occasionally (for the services my building offers) and he is a married man, but he would be more of what I am looking for in a mate. He has a strong relationship with God and we connect (friend-wise) on that level. I thank God that he is my counselor because through him, I have learned what I am really looking for. And don’t worry. I have zero feelings for this man. He is my counselor and friend and like a brother. A brother-in-Christ.
I am not looking for a mate. I am looking to be found. But I am looking for certain qualities in a mate and I rarely meet men who I connect with. It’s rare. I believe God has someone for me and I realize my spirit has been somewhere else for a long time, but again, I am looking to be found. I am working hard preparing for that, but I definitely don’t want to lead anyone on when I am not interested.
If you are thinking about passing the time with someone who you know you don’t want to be with, don’t do it. Boredom is not a good reason to date because you may end up hurting someone and creating false hope.
Proverbs 18:22 New King James Version (NKJV)
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.
Hebrews 13:4 King James Version (KJV)
4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.