The Kind Of Man I Desire

receprionist I started a new job in June and I am loving where I am working right now! We are a very productive office, but there is a lot of joy and laughter where I am working. The other thing that I am enjoying is meeting a lot of interesting men surrounding work. None of them are eligible, but they are all different and interesting. It just seems like God wants to me pay attention to the type of man I desire. I am learning what I do and do not want.

First let’s start with the man that lives in my building. I think I mentioned him in another blog. Let’s call him Joe. Well I didn’t realize it for a while, but I now see that Joe is really interested in me. I mentioned before that I was not interested, but recently I had to admit to my girlfriends that I am both attracted to him and flattered by his attention. Now, that does not mean I am interested in a relationship, it just means I think he is handsome.

Joe has done a few things that have completely turned me off. I think I mentioned this before, but one day I needed help with my groceries, but he refused to help. I realize he was looking for something in return. He couldn’t just be a gentlemen and help me with my groceries from the taxi to the elevator. Recently, Joe decided to do volunteer work at my job. Coincidence? I don’t think so. As soon as I told him where I was working he ended up volunteering there, the very next week after I told him. Then recently, we hadn’t seen each other for a while (I come in at 1:00 PM and he works in the morning) and the next time I saw him, he complimented me on my new hair style and lipstick and told me how much he had missed me. But even though I am flattered by handsome Joe’s attention, he still is not my cup of tea. One quality I want is a man who is naturally a gentlemen, meaning he doesn’t have to be told and doesn’t have to work at it. That is just who he is. Joe is not that.

So next there is someone else at work who we will call Kevin. He is a hard-working, handsome man who is very friendly, even flirty, but he flirts with a lot of woman. Recently, he introduced me to his “woman” who he explained to me was only his woman from 6:00 PM to 9:00 AM in the morning! Can you imagine a man saying that?? What’s crazy, is she is a beautiful young woman, but he is still not satisfied. So what do I see in Kevin that’s interesting? Well he really is a great conversationalist. I realize that I absolutely love to listen to an interesting man talk!

Now I know Kevin says crazy things on occasion. He told me a tall tale on Friday and I believed every word and then he told me it wasn’t true. lol But I still love having conversations with him. He took the time to explain to me how men think as opposed to women and it was interesting. Very insightful! I love that quality about Kevin. I wouldn’t do well with a man who cannot stimulate me with great conversation. But Kevin is a player or it’s least that is what he exhibits and I want a man who is faithful. I enjoy talking to Kevin, but I doubt he is faithful.

Finally there is Jimmy who was my job counselor. He was the man who was instrumental in me getting into the place where I am working now. I think I also mentioned him previously. He is married and I rarely see him now. Now physically, I am not as attracted to him as the other men. But honestly he is probably most like what I want spiritually. He talks about the Lord with ease and has a relationship with God. But it’s not just all spiritual. But he is most like me. Spiritual is who we are and so it’s easy to talk to someone like this. Both Joe and Kevin go to church, but they are different. But if Jimmy was single, I would definitely be able to settle down with this type of man.

The rest of the guys at the job are very young. Too young to consider, but they are still interesting. They are mostly looking for attention which I won’t give to them because I am old enough to be their mother. One of them wants to be called “Big Sexy” or Mr. XXX and the other one is always saying “it’s hard to stay sexy”. lol It’s really hilarious. But I ignore that because I just won’t go there.

So there it is. I am learning. I can’t wait to meet the man who I can connect with on all levels. Spiritually, a great conversationalist and good to look at. So what do I have to offer? I think I have a lot to offer. I am am intelligent, a great talker, highly organized and a good cook with old school values. I’ve been called “pretty” all of my life. But, sadly, I still feel I have not “arrived” yet. I need a little more time. But when he comes, I plan to be ready!!

RIP Aretha Franklin

There is not much to say other than I shed a few tears when I heard of Aretha Franklin’s passing. I didn’t know her, but my first thought was that we would never hear that Voice live ever again. It’s the same way I felt when my mother passed away. My mother also had an extraordinary singing voice, but more operatic. I remember the sadness I felt thinking I would never heard my mother sing again. I think that’s why I felt that way with Aretha as well. It’s a blessing to have so many wonderful performances by Aretha and I have decided to share 4 of my favorites. There are so many. Enjoy!!!



The Case of Bill Cosby


Bill Cosby, Speech Criminal

It’s all over the news. Formerly, Americas Dad, one of the greatest roles models for Black America, exposed as a fraud! The African-American community was not only upset, but the majority were in denial. It had to be a conspiracy against this powerful Black man. But I knew differently.

Several years ago, before all of Mr. Cosby’s dirty deeds were exposed, God showed me Bill Cosby in a dream. He was in a room with a few other celebrities, which included Chris Brown, who was also being exposed at the time for beating up his then girlfriend Rihanna. I remember waking up from the dream wondering why on earth I had dreamed about Bill Cosby. But with time, it was revealed.

My blog is called “a prophetic walk” for a reason. This calling can be very interesting! And each prophetic person will learn how God deals with them, personally. I know I am a seer. God often shows me things YEARS before it happens. It’s no fun because I am often labeled as false because what I see takes so long to manifest. But it doesn’t matter. It still happens. To date, the longest I have waited to see something God showed me happen has been about 22 years!!! Yes, that long. But in the case of Mr. Cosby, I came to realize, God was showing me, like Chris Brown, some dirt would soon come out on him as well. And I had this dream in 2009!

I have never felt Bill was being railroaded or that there was a conspiracy. From what I heard, it’s a known fact among some in Hollywood that he is a predator. The public just didn’t know it.

So now that Cosby’s die-hard defenders (Whoopi Goldberg and Jill Scott) have deserted him, what will be his end? Well one thing that is important when anyone is exposed is to admit it and apologize and make amends. But few men have that kind of character, especially in the face of millions of people.

It saddens me that this will be his legacy. All he has done means nothing now. Just like OJ Simpson. But that is why we cannot put people who we don’t really know on a pedestal. The arm of flesh will always fail you! But God won’t. I pray that Bill Cosby will repent and come to know Jesus, because that is his only hope. And I dare say, his drugging and philandering days are over.

So what can we draw from this story? One thing is be who you say you are. But also, be sure your sins will find you out!

Numbers 32:23New King James Version (NKJV)

23 But if you do not do so, then take note, you have sinned against the Lord; and be sure your sin will find you out.

Random Thoughts

cobb1-480x300I went to see Lee Daniels The Butler again and honestly I enjoyed it better the second time around. I hope this doesn’t offend anyone, but I enjoy seeing my own people on the screen. I routinely go to see movies where the cast is primarily Caucasian, but I do love seeing my folks (African-American) on screen. I particularly loved Oprah’s performance. I saw online that there is Oscar Buzz in the air for Lady O. How awesome would that be?!

At the end of the movie I had tears in my eyes as I thought how far Blacks have come yet we still are dealing with some of the same issues in 2013. Racism, is the epitome of ignorance. To think that you are superior to another group of people because of the color of your skin,  is insanity. But that is not what I want to talk about.

I can’t explain it, but that movie made me want to come out of my shell. I’ve been sheltered really all of my life. My family sheltered me, and so has God, but as I watched the life of this butler play out, I felt sad, but also felt a push to LIVE. I thought about what my story would look like if it played out on a movie screen. Don’t get me wrong. I have a life, but it is nowhere near what I want it to be and I need to get to making some changes, because I am not getting any younger.

I’m going to start by taking a little trip next month. There are two plays I want to see and I tried to do this back in 2011, but had to cancel because something came up with my father that prevented me from going. But this time I am going to carefully plan my trip. Perhaps now is the time. A mini vacation can make all the difference in the world. I know how to live and I am about to do it better!

Ecclesiastes 3:1

New International Version (NIV)

A Time for Everything

3 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

Love Series: Stop Being Scary

I had to chuckle when I came up with the title of this blog post. I was thinking maybe if some man who was interested in me read this blog, he might feel scared and intimidated about meeting me. So I decided to entitle this post “stop being scary”.

I saw a post on Facebook, by one of my male friends and it was speaking of being so deep, you drown people. He was talking about how some people can’t have conversations without being “super spiritual”. Well I want you to know that is NOT me. This blog is only a part of me and it represents my spiritual thoughts, but it’s not all of me. If you ever heard me and my best friend talk on the phone, you would realize I am no different than everyone else.

I am a normal single woman. My friends and I may talk about how fine (handsome) we think someone is. And then there are those guilty pleasures, which I’m ashamed of and I can’t believe I am putting it out there, but yes, I watched Love and Hip Hop and Big Ang, lol. (keep me in prayers).

Yes, I have standards, but I am not a prude and I love to laugh and have fun. I am not in prayer 24 hours a day and I worry that my life is unbalanced, even with this prophetic walk and I am open to advice about that.

I do best with clear communication. If I don’t understand, I will ask, so cryptic codes messages don’t work well for me. If a man is a good communicator, we will get along just fine because like most women, I like to talk.

I was watching a sitcom yesterday evening about a married couple and all the wife wanted to do was spend the weekend with her husband, and all the husband wanted to do is get away from his wife and I thought “is that how men really feel?” I know it was just a TV show, but if that is what a husband is going to be like, I don’t want one. Now I would have said spend the day, but she wanted the weekend. lol

I guess what I am saying is, I’m don’t want to come across as scary because I’m not. I know how to have fun just like the next woman.

No scripture..this post speaks for itself. lol

I found this on YouTube the other day and I laughed so hard, I cried. If you have the time please listen, whether you are single or married.

It Was Only a Test

I’m still marvelling over how God moved yesterday in church. There was one other thing that happened that really got my attention. My Pastor was ministering and he described a road that looked exactly like the picture to the right.

I was amazed as the pastor described this exact scene because I had just used this picture in another blog post ( speaking about moving. But today the Lord said “that was a test”. Now it had to be God because I do not test people. I tend to believe people because I’m not a liar and I presume that most people are being honest. But God spoke to me about moving to test the waters. But sadly someone failed the test.

I know I have spoken in riddles for sometime, but I will break it down so it will be very clear. The move I was considering was about the possibility of a relationship with a man. Yes, I put it out there!!! lol  But after a series of events, you’ll not hear me speak of the move again. If this is really the will of God it will come to pass without me moving on my own. Seem strange for me to say that? Don’t think it’s strange. It’s all about the progressive Will of God. You have to check your mailbox daily, because there may be a new memo. God never allowed me to move because he knew the other person on the other end “waiting” was not trust worthy. Yes, I am calling a spade a spade. Though God’s final plan may come to pass, the method by which that happens can change.

My mind recalls the dream about the snake in front of the door. When I decided to move toward the door, I saw the snake and went back home. That dream is manifesting because I am staying home and will never entertain moving again on my own. I was telling the Lord, the only way I would move is if Boaz backs a truck up to my door and moves me. Ladies, never move for a man. This was only a test by God.

Don’t think God will test you or someone connected to you? Remember Abraham. God told him to take his only son and sacrifice him. When he saw that Abraham was willing, God stopped him and provided another sacrifice. Another method. In my case, God was testing the motives of someone else and they failed. So the Father sent a new memo out and told me stay put. I knew it all along, but just cooperated with God. lol  Yes, it was only a test!

God will always give us the opportunity to cooperate with His will. Then we have a choice. We can follow the path we want to follow, trusting that He knows best, or we can do our own thing. Then after we have gone down the road we want to go, he will remind us of the opportunity we missed. Yes, it was only a test.

Genesis 22:1-2 New International Version (NIV)

Abraham Tested

22 Some time later God tested Abraham. He said to him, “Abraham!” “Here I am,” he replied. Then God said, “Take your son, your only son, whom you love—Isaac—and go to the region of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on a mountain I will show you.”