I was watching For Better or Worse a sitcom on OWN (Oprah Winfrey Network) and the subject matter of this particular episode was how many sex partners the characters had.
Two former lovers (Leslie and Joseph) were talking of reconciling and Leslie wanted to know how many women Joseph had been with since they broke up. Leslies number was easy. Though she had married briefly, the marriage was never consummated. I am not sure of the details (I missed most of that season) but Leslies number was a big fat zero.
Well, guess what Josephs number was? Don’t guess 10 or less, because Josephs number was a whopping 45! It seems Joseph went wild we he found out he was losing Leslie. So he slept with 45 women!
As I watched the show play out I had several issues with the show (no offense to the writer). My first issue was Joseph sleeping with 45 women was presented like it’s normal. There was no mention that perhaps he had a problem, like maybe sex addiction.
My second issue is how quickly Leslie got over the 45 women. Yes she did have problems with it and insisted that he get tested for sexually transmitted diseases. But in the next couple of episodes she decides to move in with him even though she’s supposedly trying to live celibate. Clearly she is over the 45. And remember, that isn’t even his overall number. Just his number since the break-up!
Finally all of this talk catches up with the married characters on the show (Marcus and Angela) and they start asking each other questions about how many lovers they have both had, this after several years of marriage. I’m looking at this thinking who goes into marriage not knowing this BEFORE they get married???
I know this is just a TV show but the bottom line is sexual purity is important. It’s an unrealistic person who thinks their actions sexually would not cause their future mate to pause and have to think about it. But the key is to tell the truth and allow the person time to process it (if you have an extensive history).
Ideally, since I have been celibate for what seems like forever, I would love for my future mate to be at least five years celibate. But I doubt that is realistic. But the one thing I will not compromise on is my one-year rule before me.
Singles, let’s practice purity. We ALL struggle, but God will help us if we ask.
1 Corinthians 10:13
New International Version (NIV)
13 No temptation
[a] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted [b] beyond what you can bear. But
when you are tempted, [c]he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.