Help Me Understand

stock-footage-two-african-american-friends-having-serious-conversation-at-caf-x-eI realize that sometimes we just don’t understand people and where they are coming from and there is a reason for that. It’s called communication.

Sometimes people want us to understand them and we always should allow them to state their case. Rarely is it hard to come to some sort of understanding if we take the effort to explain ourselves. Here is an example:

Perhaps you are feeling as though you can never reach a certain standard in Christ and you feel as though if someone knew all about you, they would never accept you. Well welcome to the club! We ALL have issues and most people have long-standing issues that they think they will never be able to overcome. Well, let me talk about me.

I’ve always struggled with my weight. Not as much when I was younger, but now it’s a huge battle. I remember last year when I got on the scale at the doctors, I had lost 25 pounds effortlessly.  I was so excited because I really believed that I was beginning to overcome this battle. I had radically altered my diet because of a diagnosis of  Type 2 diabetes and I was on my way. But I got too comfortable and I am pretty much back where I started. It’s terrible. Oh this flesh that we battle.  But I refuse to give up! I truly believe that we can be delivered from certain things permanently and I will stand on that until the day I die. Especially long-standing sins and habits.  I know too many people who have been delivered and I know I was just about there. So just because we fall, it doesn’t mean we will never be free.

So what does all of this have to do with understanding? A lot. My weight has made me shrink back from a lot of things even down to taking pictures, because I feel I would not be accepted the way that I am. But guess what?  There are people who God will put in our lives who will understand us even when we think they won’t. Our job is to make it clear what it is that we want them to understand and trust God and them that if they are really our friend, they will.

Isaiah 1:18

King James Version (KJV)

18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

Unequally Yoked and Totally Confused

I was reading something someone sent me and honestly, I was surprised that the person is still using the same means to communicate. I’ve moved on. I am too old for foolishness!

The only reason I read what was sent (I can’t really call it a message because it really is not directed to me; no name, no acknowledgement etc.) was because the Lord prompted my heart to check. Honestly, I was shocked.

I just told someone that I am not conducting anymore relationships online. I have no interest in internet friendships anymore. I am not going down that road anymore. Communication is the key and talking works best for me.

Right now I am loving God and my relationship with Him. I know He directs my life and I have no interest in hooking up with anybody who doesn’t understand that. People who don’t understand that you are being led by God are not the kind of people you should hang out with (you prophetic people).

Here’s how I know I am led by God. For a while someone was trying to persuade me to move to another state. It took a lot of fasting and praying to realize that was absolutely NOT what God was saying. If I was chasing them and trying to ram my way into something, I would have moved a long time ago. But I didn’t do that. I totally understand what it means to feel like I am second best and guess what? I’m cool with it! And that is because I am GOD’S best!

I am rambling, but I am so tired of being misunderstood ESPECIALLY when God has already spoken. I have not blogged that much or done much of anything and I am STILL being accused of trying to make things happen. But guess what? I’m not. All I do is listen to God and obey and that is what I will continue to do and I’m not hanging with any unequally yoked confused people who don’t get it.

Sometimes people don’t know just how uninterested you really are. lol




A New Memo?

miamiI know a lot of people do what they want, and consult God later, but when you walk prophetically, you take directions from the Lord.

About 6 weeks ago, I heard the still small voice of the Lord say “go to Miami”. Well the reason I know it was God was because I had no desire or intention of going. I believe God had something in mind, but my only objection is that I did not want to travel by myself. I’ve done that so much, I am just tired. Well again I heard the still small voice of the Lord say “take your prayer partner”.  Well when I asked her about it she just laughed. You see that very same morning, she was standing in the kitchen and heard God say “go to Miami for a divine connection”. So we started making plans.

I am used to going and just obeying God because He said so, but we also planned our trip around a stage play and so as the time got closer, I became unsure and so again I went to God and asked him to confirm what He has instructed me to do. Recently, I got a message and it seems that there would be no purpose for me to take this trip, so now it’s iffy.

You know if God want to connect us to people and opportunities, all parties must be in agreement and if they are not, then there is no reason to go. I am okay with it. I have to say I was not jumping up and down over the idea because I feel unprepared. But it seems I’ve checked my spiritual “mailbox” and there is a new memo and that memo seems to be saying “don’t go”.

We have to stay open to the changes that God makes. He will accept our hesitancy for now. God sees and knows the whys and He will allow it, but His ultimate plan will come to pass no matter what. Sometimes these delays are simply bumps in the road toward destiny. Our goal should be to get to the place of complete obedience.

Again, I am okay with not going. There will be another opportunity and hopefully this time all parties will be ready!

This is a time when you can make plans for the days ahead, but after you decide what you want to do, hold your plans loosely.  Hold them in your heart as with an open hand so that I can still have My way with you.  Be flexible, and allow Me to change the details or even your direction.  The facts are not all available to you at this time, but they will unfold with time, says the Lord.  You belong to Me; let Me direct your steps.  Psalms 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.

Accepting What Is

I just watched a video of the testimony of the daughter of a well-known Pastor, who is touching the world. His daughter wrote a book about her own story and it’s was really quite stunning. This daughter of a nationally known minister, found herself pregnant out-of-wedlock at the age of 13, married to a cheater by age 19 and divorced by age 23. I had not heard her testimony and was amazed at all she had gone through.

Later, I saw my former Pastor sharing with this young woman. My former Pastor is now divorced from her husband, who is also a Pastor and the transparency of both of these woman did something to me. Although, I know it, these stories reiterated to me that life is not perfect and we don’t get a Cinderella ending. You may get the husband, but end up barren. You may have the children and lose the husband. You may have a perfectly happy life, but then get sick. There will always be something that we have to deal with. What we must learn to do is accept what is. Accept God’s will, and accept what is taking place in our lives. The path that we travel just is not perfect, but his plan is perfect for us.

My mother gave birth to six children. She was a step mom to too big children at the age of 19. I have two nieces who are the same age as my youngest two brothers, because my oldest brother was having kids while my mom (his step-mom) was having kids. We have pictures of the babies in bassinets together. lol

Ideally had I married young, I would have had 6 children. That was my desire. If it was left up to me, that is what would have happened. I always wanted to have a large family. But at this point it’s wishful thinking even though a prophetess told me 7 years ago that I would bear 3 children. (Yeah right).

Life is complicated at this point. I am hanging on by a thread to what I believe. But in the midst of it all, I am learning that I must accept what is. No more fantasies. It is what is it! But I can still trust God for what He says will be!

Romans 4:17

New International Version (NIV)

17 As it is written: “I have made you a father of many nations.”[a] He is our father in the sight of God, in whom he believed—the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not.





Have you ever agreed to do or commit to something that you knew deep within your heart was not for you to do or commit to at the time?

I know I have, and it definitely is not a good experience.

Here are two typical scenarios.


It’s 5:45pm on a Friday evening and Jamie has just gotten home from work after a long, hard week.

Exhausted with her head pounding and body aching, she opens the door to her apartment and heads for the bathroom.

All she wants to do is take a hot shower and curl up on the couch.

Jamie knows she needs to rest.

The phone rings.

It’s her co-worker/friend Dawn and the following conversation ensues.


“Hi Jamie”

“Hi Dawn. What’s up?”

“I’m wondering if you can keep my kids tonight? Dave wants to take…

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About Modesty and Judging

A few minutes ago, I was on Facebook and I commented on a friends post about women and modesty. Honestly, sometimes I am shocked at how people don’t like the truth.


Nikki Minaj

The young lady posted the above picture of Nikki Minaj. The talk is about her much more toned down look and honestly Nikki looks nice. But somehow my Facebook friend connected it to Christian woman and how they dress. I commented that all the men standing behind Nikki were looking at her and my Facebook friend responded that “men are responsible for their own lust”. And we don’t hold any responsibility?

Well first let’s separate worldly women from Godly women. There should be a difference. Women of the world generally dress to be provocative. Not all, but many do. There is no standard of modesty and guess what? We shouldn’t expect anything different. I have no problem with Nikki. I probably would not wear it, without a jacket, but more power to her.


Erica Campbell

But when it comes to a Godly woman, we should always think about how we dress and the effect it will have on our men. Recently, Erica Campbell of Gospel Duo Mary Mary, came under fire because of the above picture. Erica and her sister have been known to push the envelope where their attire is concerned. Personally, I think the dress is too tight, but she has a right to wear what she wants just as I have a right to share my opinion.

Yes, men are responsible for their own lust, but we as Godly women are also responsible for not contributing to those issues. I can’t believe my Facebook friend would think that we don’t have any responsibility.

So, I shared my own story with my Facebook friend. Several years back, I was wearing my favorite blue and white stripe scoop neck shirt. As I walked down the street, I noticed every man I passed was looking right at my boobs (sorry if that word offends you). It got so bad that it was hard not to notice. Well I heard the still small voice of the Holy Spirit say “don’t wear that top anymore”. I went home and that was the last time I wore it. My top was causing a problem with some men. And since I am not flat-chested by any means, it was best for me to not wear it anymore. I could have said “well they have a problem” but that would only have been half the problem. lol

So, just for me posting truth, suddenly I’m judging. I am so sick of people saying you are judging if you share something that is not in agreement with the opinions of others. Spare me. Truth is truth and just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean I am judging people.

The Bible is clear on a lot of things. It speaks of how women should dress, it’s speak about not fornicating, gluttony, lying and cheating. It speaks about the homosexual lifestyle being sin. And if I agree and share what the Bible says, that doesn’t make me judgmental. It just makes me smart. 😉

Ladies, let’s adorn ourselves properly, I don’t care what the world says!

1 Timothy 2:9-10

New International Version (NIV)

I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, 10 but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.