The internet is abuzz with talk of Gospel Singer Tina Campbell’s (Mary Mary) husbands admission of cheating with countless woman. Award winning group Mary Mary have a reality show on WETV and Facebook and Twitter are weighing in on whether or not she should take her husband back.
At first when I heard about it and read her story in Ebony magazine, I admired her courage to try to mend her marriage. Like Tina, I believe that infidelity does not necessarily mean the end of a marriage. I know plenty of couples who have gone through it and are still together to this day. But later more details emerged and it was soon learned that Tina’s husband was unfaithful with a “friend” of the family. Hmmm, that stings…but maybe still they can work it out. After all they have 4 children together.
But the truth has come out that there were several woman and that is when I started thinking differently. Last night (on the show) when Teddy Campbell allowed his wife to believe that things were mending and that it was only one affair I had to change my opinion. I watched the show as Tina’s husband admitted to his brother-in-law that there had been “countless affairs”. Not to insult anyone’s intelligence, but countless means, too numerous to count. That means he lost count which to me sounds like a sexual addiction.
No matter what you think about reality TV, Christians etc, this is definitely an education for the masses. I am shocked at the number of Christians who speak of forgiveness and staying married in a situation like this. Forgiveness is one thing, but staying married is another. It also shows how little Christians know about scripture. One reason for ending a marriage is adultery. And yes, God hates divorce, but when a Christian man cheats “through half of his wifes pregnancies” with women too numerous to count, this is the time to end the marriage. And trust me, I am not a pro-divorce person.
I say this because this man has been irresponsible and has subjected the mother of his children to not only humiliation, but also disease. It’s so sad to see.
Tina’s has spoken out and said she takes full responsibility for her contribution to the problems in the marriage, but no such statement has been given by her husband. Also, when she made the statement I don’t think she knew the extent of her husbands infidelity.
I started thinking long and hard about this subject and started praying for my future mate. I am asking God to uproot any propensity toward adultery out of his spirit NOW. Once he knows the will of God concerning us, it’s time to reel it in. And if he can’t do it, I pray God give him the lesson of all lessons. Like this Pastor’s wife once did, She prayed against adultery in her marriage and just when her husband was about to meet with a woman to cheat, HE GOT STRUCK BY LIGHTENING. lol True story. Needless to say, he has NEVER been unfaithful. Yes, I’m praying for lightening. lol
I’ve been hearing a lot about cheating lately. Once you are married, engaged or even God’s will has been revealed, if you go in another direction you are cheating. Don’t test God because if you do, there will always be consequences.
New International Version (NIV)
32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
New International Version (NIV)
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[a] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.