Hi, everybody. My name is Sheila. There are a few of you who frequent my blog who know my real name and I’m okay with that. Of course you have to be careful using your real information in cyberspace, but for the most part, I try not to pretend to be someone else. I’m not saying I have never used an alias, but I am who I am.
I NEVER pretend to be a male online. I am FEMALE. Although, I have not disclosed my age, I don’t pretend I am 20 or 30. I am not. I am middle-aged. I don’t pretend that I am married. I am single, never been married, no children. This is who I am and I have never pretended to be anything but me.
I have encountered some people in cyberspace and even this blog who were pretenders. That is a nice word. The truth is they are PHONY. I love looking up words in the dictionary, even familiar ones. I find you get great insight from that. Here is what Websters dictionary says:
: not true, real, or genuine : intended to make someone think something that is not true
of a person : not honest or sincere : saying things that are meant to deceive people
Here is what dictionary.com says:
[foh-nee] Show IPA adjective, pho·ni·er, pho·ni·est, noun, plural pho·nies, verb,pho·nied, pho·ny·ing.
1. not real or genuine; fake; counterfeit: a phony diamond.
2. false or deceiving; not truthful; concocted: a phony explanation.
3. insincere or deceitful; affected or pretentious: a phony sales representative.
I know you get my point.
So yesterday, I was attacked by someone who attacked me in “character”. This has been the problem through the entire fake relationship. I call it fake, because the person never showed up as themselves. They came to me in many different forms and yes, I am going to tell the truth. The person is a PHONY. There is nothing real about them.
As I reread the blog, their attack was shrouded in a FAKE scenario. I was the ex, even though I never was. And I did them wrong, but they took no responsibility in the matter. And when I read the comments, I thought, these poor people don’t even know they are being deceived. They are weighing in on scenario that is not even real. That is if the comments are even real. I wouldn’t put it past that person to have made up the comments. It’s really quite sad.
At the foundation of true relationship is showing up as yourself, in all your glory. The good the bad and the ugly. At the end of the day, this person did me a great favor cutting me out of their life. Now they should do the same favor for me and not show up at my blog in any form (male or female) and not IM me on yahoo and not show up on my Facebook page as a fake character. They need to just leave me alone. If they will leave me alone, I can continue to write on my blog in peace. The reason I wanted to close the blog is because this is an access point. Believe it or not for years I was harassed daily through spam. Happy to say I have no spam messages since they stopped. Yay!! Who does that???
Again, my name is Sheila and I’m the real deal and I don’t hang with PHONY PEOPLE! I’m telling you that fake stuff will kill you!
1 Corinthians 13:11
New International Version (NIV)
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.