Love Series: The Wait

Meagan Good and Devon Franklin to Co-Write Book on Waiting Before Marriage

By Dominque Hobdy (Courtesy of Essence.com)

Meagan Good and DeVon Franklin attend ELLE’s 20th Annual Women in Hollywood Celebration at the Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles

PHOTO CREDIT: FREDERICK M. BROWN/GETTY IMAGES

Meagan Good and husband DeVon Franklin know all about waiting for “the one.” The couple remained celibate before saying “I do” in 2012.

Now they’re ready to share their wisdom in a new self-help book calledThe Wait.

“It’s that waiting period where we really get the most anxiety and the most frustration,” Franklin told Sister 2 Sister. “It’s all about how you handle the waiting period in life, from the relationship wait, to the marriage wait, to the career wait.”

The couple married in 2012 after a yearlong courtship in which Good shares she knew that he was the one because he agreed to wait until marriage to be intimate with her. How did the couple go so long without sex? “We held each other accountable because we honored the commitment,” Franklin told ESSENCE.com. “And we both were already committed to it.”

The Wait is slated for a 2014 release.

Love Series: Fake Stuff Will Kill You!

fake stuff” So, act brand new if you want to”.

Don’t judge me, but I’m listening to a little secular radio. I enjoy the Steve Harvey show sometimes and there was this one song that kept running through my head called “Without me” (Fantasia, clean version). Sad I have to even mention that there is a clean version of a song. It’s more common than I realized. But that is not what this post is about.

The song is about how being fake is harmful and how this woman knows how this man really is even though he is pretending by acting “brand new”. Apparently, this man is hiding his true character. As I realized what the song meant it made me think how flattery can be used as a tool of the devil.

Depending on the personality type, some people will be sucked in hook, line and sinker, by someone flattering them all day, ever day. There is something wrong with that. The bible is clear about flattery and I’ve talked about it here on this blog before.

But the emphasis of this post is not so much flattery, in that it’s about someone being fake. So what is fake? Here is the definition:

fake

1  [feyk]  Show IPA verb, faked, fak·ing, noun, adjective

verb (used with object)

1. prepare or make (something specious, deceptive, or fraudulent): to fake a report showing nonexistentprofits.
2. to conceal the defects of or make appear more attractive, interesting, valuable, etc., usually in orderto deceive: The story was faked a bit to make it more sensational.
3. to pretend; simulate: to fake illness.

When you are a sincere person, it’s hard to really accept that people are pretending.  But people pretend all the time when they have something to hide. Like a man who is cheating. He has to be fake because he knows the truth will end his relationship.

So what is the point of this blog post? It’s don’t be fake!! Be honest about who you really are and what you are really doing and if someone loves you as you really are, then you will know what you have is he real deal!

Proverbs 27:6

Amplified Bible (AMP)

6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are lavish and deceitful.

Pack Your Bags!

suitcasesYesterday, I shared that the lady I am living with is planning to make room for me to stay with her for a while longer, and how I have mixed feeling. Then, the reaction that I’ve been having with the cats has gotten worse. For a while it seems as though I was improving. But suddenly, it’s like I’m back at day one.

So yesterday, after praying and wondering about what is next, my prayer partner calls me and shares a seven minute youtube, of a popular minister that we know from New York preaching about Moses and “packing your bags”.

I felt it was for me. I feel God has allowed me to be in this situation so I will not get comfortable living here. The driving is just to rebuild my confidence so that when I go, I will confidently drive. I’m sure God is about to speak and show me where to go. I believe I believe I will still be here in Florida. Once I have heard and the provision is there, I’m moving forward!

When You Lose Your Mother

motherIt’s been many years since my mother died, but I still miss her. You really can’t understand that loss, unless you live through it. I had a GREAT mom. Not just a good mom. She was saved, she served God, she was an excellent example of a virtuous woman. She had a spotless reputation and she raised me correctly. She bore six children and raised two step-children. She is the reason I am a woman of virtue.

But after losing her and with any loss, I had to recover and not get bitter. The reason I was prompted to write this blog post, is because I was watching something and I felt the Lord was saying that someone has grown so bitter over the death of their mother that it’s affecting every area of their life.They are making a lot of destructive decisions because of it. But God is standing by right now to heal. As you go to God in prayer and forgive HIM for taking your mom, you will begin to feel relief. You have even begun to wonder what is wrong with you and why you are so bound up in your spirit. You are bitter and you need to let it go.

I didn’t get angry with God after my mom died. I got angry at myself and my family. I felt we just let her go. I felt that we were not proactive enough when she got her cancer diagnosis. I felt I didn’t pray enough or fast enough. I felt the family didn’t take it seriously enough.That was my hurdle. But for someone else, you have put the blame squarely on God’s “shoulders” and you don’t go to church anymore and you are turning to new age teaching and worldly philosophies and even sinful behavior and people,  to numb the pain. The truth is you backslid when your mother died. God is calling you back to himself TODAY!

Surrender it today and watch what God does!

2 Corinthians 6:2

Amplified Bible (AMP)

2 For He says, In the time of favor (of an assured welcome) I have listened to and heeded your call, and I have helped you on the day of deliverance (the day of salvation). Behold, now is truly the time for a gracious welcome and acceptance [of you from God]; behold, now is the day of salvation!