Communication is key in all relationships. If you are not sure about something, you need to be able to let that person know how you are feeling. We can’t expect to have a subliminal relationship. That is why God gave us a mouth.
Sometimes people need reassurance about there relationship and I get that. I have 3 friendships (female) and all of those friends have been in my life in excess of 20 years. But even with these friendships, I need to hear from my friends from time to time (all 3 are long distance). So I get it.
Sometimes people need constant reassurance because the friendship or relationship is not at the level it should be. But I learned something recently. I have been reacting to some things and saying things I don’t mean and I have to stop it. This is the most “unstable” I have ever been. I have allowed the instability of others to affect me even when I am certain.
People who know me and have been in my presence can tell you, I am loyal to a fault. But some relationships will test that loyalty especially when no mutual commitment is communicated. In others words, how can someone expect to be assured when it doesn’t go both ways, or worse yet, if you loyalty lies somewhere else?
If you need constant reassurance give it. And give it in a way that the person can understand that you are serious. Communication (your own words, your own mouth). And men, the only way you will get that reassurance you need in a relationship is for you to give it first. There is not way, I can convince a man I am committed if he isn’t!
I have not varied in anything that God is told me. Never have and never will. Whatever God says, I will see it to the end. But do I need to say it everyday?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.