I was reading a very sad article from Charisma Online about Pastor Ron Carpenter who I have heard of, but am not that familiar with. I have seen him on TV several times, but I can’t say I “follow” his ministry.
Well, Pastor Carpenter is the Pastor of a large church and recently he had to make the sad announcement that his wife would be entering rehab for mental illness and that their marriage was breaking up after she admitted to several affairs. The story is sad because it seems they had that storybook romance that turned sour (you never know what the future holds). It was his reaction that really got my attention because he seemed devastated.
What was also interesting was the fact that he specifically asked the church NOT to pray for reconciliation and really for the first time I understood. There are lines that are crossed that you can’t recover from and when that happens there is nothing to do but let go and let God.
Often when people develop soul-ties with others, even if God delivered them tomorrow, you still wouldn’t want them back and that is real. In Pastor Carpenters case, he was married for a very long time and they have children, but I guess he is just done. I believe God is able, but I will honor his wishes and not pray for restoration. Adultery is the one out for marriage. He does have biblical grounds for divorce. And even though God hates divorce, God also knows when people have had enough.
Of course there are always two sides to every story, but I have shared what has been reported, thus far. Here is the link for to the article.