Years ago, I read a book called the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. For some reason, I decided to take his test again in an effort to understand what’s important to me in relationships.
When I saw the test, I kind of felt I was a person who needed quality time. And sure enough when I took the test that was my result. Nothing says love to me like giving me your time.
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities
together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.
I also know that direct communication works best for me. There is nothing more frustrating then trying to figure out what someone is trying to say to me. Communication is difficult enough and if I don’t understand I need to be able to get clarity.
The other day I was talking to my best friend and I said something and she misinterpreted it. But since we are good friends she was able to express to me her understanding. Well we cleared it all up in a minute. It was a misunderstanding.
I know with me, even if you have been my friend for years, if I don’t hear from you, it tends to make me doubt our relationship. For some people it doesn’t matter, but for me it does.
Take the test for yourself. What’s your love language?