I was watching a clip from Oprah’s Master Class, featuring Actress Diahann Carroll and it was so interesting to hear her assessment as to why she’d been married four times. It got me to thinking that in the area of matters of the heart, we have a choice. But there is a price to pay when you have it your way.
Diahann Carroll, who is now in her seventies, said something that I believe. When it comes to love, if you are looking for someone who will make you happy, and complete you, you are in for a great disappointment. I believe in love, it’s just that I don’t idolize it. Everyone I know, who was madly in love at one time, has had an occasion where they wanted to “kill” that very same person or wanted out of the marriage. So for me, I am not looking for a man who is the answer to all my problems, hopes and fears. I am looking for God’s best for me even if I can’t see it.
But the name of this post is “When you have it you way”, and the reason I wanted to write this post is because sometimes people need to acknowledge that they are difficult. For whatever reason, you are difficult to love, difficult to please and you hold folks to impossible standards, all in the name of “love”. Well guess what? It could be that YOU are the problem and not everyone else.
This is for the person who is making that “thing called love” all about THEM. Love is a two-way street and I want to ask you, if you are looking for that perfect person to come along and jump through hoops for you, in the words of an old Janet Jackson song, I want to ask you “What Have You Done For Me (them) lately. Think about it. Take a listen:
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.