I have to start this post by saying I do not have a jealous nature. Some people are like that by nature. I am blessed in that I rarely feel jealousy. Have I ever been jealous? Of course, but it’s not a problem that I have.
Some people speak about jealousy as though it’s always bad. I think it’s bad when you start to do bad things to hurt a person. I think jealousy is bad when it turns to envy. But the truth is, a little jealousy is not always bad.
Sometimes a man getting jealous, means that he cares about you and if you didn’t know it, it can be a good indicator. As long has that person doesn’t start trying to make you jealous back or tries to hurt you. it’s okay.
But some jealousy is unfounded. In my last post, I shared a story about how God allowed someone to come along to help heal me and build my self-esteem back up. It’s not like we dated or even talked on the phone. It was just a fun time that God allowed for healing and that is the truth.
This came at a strategic time, when I was feeling and actually was being rejected. I was observing something that brought me great pain and God gave me a nice distraction.
Sometimes when we reject our gift, or ignore our gift, someone else will come along and admire it and take our place, even if for a season. And YES that goes both ways. I don’t want to be accused of being judgmental and one-sided.
Yes, God told me I would watch some stuff go down about my future. But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t painful and that doesn’t mean God did not need to send a distraction for healing, but the truth is that is ALL it was and all it will ever be, because I know he is not the man for me.
Sometimes our jealousy is not based in reality. Don’t waste your time being jealous of someone who is not even in the picture and don’t waste your time getting back at that person and trying to hurt them. You don’t want to drive them away for good! And YES, that goes both ways. 😉
Song of Solomon 8:6
New King James Version (NKJV)