Love Series: No Need for Jealousy

I have to start this post by saying I do not have a jealous nature. Some people are like that by nature. I am blessed in that I rarely feel jealousy. Have I ever been jealous? Of course, but it’s not a problem that I have.

Some people speak about jealousy as though it’s always bad. I think it’s bad when you start to do bad things to hurt a person. I think jealousy is bad when it turns to envy. But the truth is, a little jealousy is not always bad.

Sometimes a man getting jealous, means that he cares about you and if you didn’t know it, it can be a good indicator. As long has that person doesn’t start trying to make you jealous back or tries to hurt you. it’s okay.

But some jealousy is unfounded. In my last post, I shared a story about how God allowed someone to come along to help heal me and build my self-esteem back up. It’s not like we dated or even talked on the phone. It was just a fun time that God allowed for healing and that is the truth.

This came at a strategic time, when I was feeling and actually was being rejected. I was observing something that brought me great pain and God gave me a nice distraction.

Sometimes when we reject our gift, or ignore our gift, someone else will come along and admire it and take our place, even if for a season. And YES that goes both ways. I don’t want to be accused of being judgmental and one-sided.

Yes, God told me I would watch some stuff go down about my future. But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t painful and that doesn’t mean God did not need to send a distraction for healing, but the truth is that is ALL it was and all it will ever be, because I know he is not the man for me.

Sometimes our jealousy is not based in reality. Don’t waste your time being jealous of someone who is not even in the picture and don’t waste your time getting back at that person and trying to hurt them. You don’t want to drive them away for good!  And YES, that goes both ways. 😉

Song of Solomon 8:6

New King James Version (NKJV)

The Shulamite to Her Beloved

⁶ Set me as a seal upon your heart,
As a seal upon your arm;
For love is as strong as death,
Jealousy as cruel as the grave;^[a]
Its flames are flames of fire,
A most vehement^[b] flame.

Love Series: Trust Me, I Get It!

Sometimes you meet someone and they seem like they would be the perfect person for you. It’s even more profound when they are someone you never even noticed before and then BAM, they have your full attention.

It happened to me recently. I was at my former church and this man was on the pulpit in full view, but I paid him no attention UNTIL he started paying attention to me. Suddenly, I had a pep in my step, I felt excited about seeing him and I saw him in a whole different light. Things were getting interesting and I was SURE I would be seeing this man.

I still think about him to this day and for a while, I had hope that something would transpire between us. Then God gave me a dream that made it very clear that was NOT going to happen. It took me a minute to accept this, but now I know that issue is dead.

When I think about it, I see God’s wisdom. I needed a handsome man to pay some attention to me because my self-esteem had taken a big blow and I had forgotten that I’ve had quite a few very attractive men in my life. God was reminding me that there was NOTHING wrong with me, just because one man did not recognize my value.

So, I get it. Even after God says NO, it’s hard to let go. Then I also realize had he and I started dating, if he liked me, I would probably have ended up with the wrong man. I felt that strongly about him. The attraction between us was magnetic. It’s been a while since I felt this way about someone and I ain’t talking cyberspace baby. The real deal. Tall dark and handsome, in my face and grabbing and shaking hands and him  watching me like a hawk. lol

Trust me, I get it. But no matter how much you want that person, if they are not in your destiny, you have to LET THEM GO. Especially after God has spoken. The Lord gave me a very clear dream that he was NOT the one, along with a very clear prophetic word  right in the midst of it happeing.. As much as I wanted him to be Mr. Right at the time, he is Mr. Wrong. And life goes on!