Love Series: Honesty is the Best Policy

I have to tell you, I am observing a situation that is blowing my mind. God allowed me to get to know someone pretty well, and I see that there was definitely a purpose, or I would have fallen for the okie-doke too.

I tell you people think that men are the only ones with game, but there are some women that GOT GAME!! Now the scariest kind of game is “church game” or  “church girl game”. As Elder Deborah Morton says: “lying Christians”. lol

Men, when a woman knows or believes that your heart is wide open to her, she will use it to her advantage, just like Delilah did to Samson. And I really hate to see it. If it was sincere, well so be it. But when I know it is lies, wow. I’m scared of that kind of person. And if you have ever experienced that person lying about you to your face, that is even scarier. But God had me strategically placed for a reason. I know the TRUTH. That is why I love God!

Let’s take a small thing like celibacy. I don’t understand lying about that. If you fell last year, or this year, then own it and move on. If someone loves you, they will accept it. But people lie because they want to paint a perfect picture of themselves. But guess what? You are not perfect and that is a lie and you are not who the other person thinks you are. What a crazy foundation for a relationship!!! And then when you marry and you or they cheat, you are devastated. Well you didn’t know the truth about each other. As for me, I don’t care if you had sex last week. TELL ME. Then I can make an informed decision about whether I want to be with you.

Here is the problem. When two people have been saying they love each other for years and one or both have stepped out on the love, it brings the reality of what they really had to the surface. It shows it wasn’t that deep. lol

Can you imagine going into a marriage and not knowing the TRUTH about your mates sexual history? Can you imagine thinking that man had only you in his heart and he was just recently with someone else? Can you imagine thinking that woman held fast to a vision for five years only to find out that in the midst of the “wision” (wish + vision, lol) she celebrated sexually with someone else??  Sheesh! I’m scared of people like that. You know, things have a way of coming out. What’s done in the dark…..

Here the truth; honesty can only come when you are dealing with an honest person. If you are dealing with a perpetual liar, you don’t stand a chance for a solid relationship. It’s like someone once told me. Some things will be taken to the grave. (meaning, I will never tell the truth about some things) I guess some folks think that is a good thing. But not in relationship.

Judges 16:17-21

Amplified Bible (AMP)

17 Then he told her all his mind and said to her, A razor has never come upon my head, for I have been a Nazirite to God from my birth. If I am shaved, then my strength will go from me, and I shall become weak and be like any other man.

18 And when Delilah saw that he had told her all his mind, she went and called for the Philistine lords, saying, Come up this once, for he has told me all he knows. Then the Philistine lords came up to her and brought the money in their hands.

19 And she made Samson sleep upon her knees, and she called a man and caused him to shave off the seven braids of his head. Then she began to torment [Samson], and his strength went from him.

20 She said, The Philistines are upon you, Samson! And he awoke out of his sleep and said, I will go out as I have time after time and shake myself free. For Samson did not know that the Lord had departed from him.

21 But the Philistines laid hold of him, bored out his eyes, and brought him down to Gaza and bound him with [two] bronze fetters; and he ground at the mill in the prison.

 

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