I have a family member who was molested by more than one person. Suddenly the light came on as to why that relative acts the way that they do.
Sometimes that person isolates themselves and for years they separated themselves from family. At times they can be really nasty and rude and cruel. But they also claim to know Christ and they are an intercessor in the church! (not judging, been there, done that)
God has given me even more compassion for the person, especially when I found out that there was more than one person who had molested them. Who can’t feel compassion for a person who has endured that. At that point I felt their pain and I felt deep compassion even though I have not been molested.
I’ve notice the patience that God has for people who have gone through these kinds of situations. Where He would have slapped their hands a long time ago, in these cases, it seems the Lord shows great compassion and He is very long-suffering.
But the Lord showed me in two cases that I know of that He is going to deal with that stuff. You see, your abuse is not an excuse for bad behavior. And sometimes God has to allow certain things to happen to let you know that certain behaviors are not acceptable.
It’s like dealing with a child. I am the caregiver for a toddler now and he turned 2 on Friday. I’ve notice changes in him. He is always hollering, “no” and “mine” and the other day he decided to bite me! Of course I gave him a long time out. And just like a toddler at some point God may have to discipline that person (give them a long time out), even though they have been abused. It’s called setting up boundaries.
WHEN YOU HAVE THE ANSWER, (JESUS) YOUR ABUSE IS NO LONGER AN EXCUSE FOR BAD BEHAVIOR!!