It’s Valentines day, a day in which we focus and think about the ones we love. I had forgotten about the day until I put the news on this morning. For me it’s just another day. I am not upset that I don’t have anyone in my life. One day I will but for now I have to make myself content.
There are so many definitions of what love is. It shouldn’t be that complicated, but in the world it is. A lot of times you learn what love is, by learning what it’s not. Here some things that love is NOT:
1. Love is not talk over cyberspace. So many people have gotten caught up in what I call cyber infatuation. They get in deep relationships with people they don’t really know and have never even met. You’ve never spent a minute with that person, but yet they are in love.
2. Love is not sex. I remember seeing this movie and the character was saying love is being too tired to get up the next morning (inferring that you are too tired from making love). Well that is not love. When you love someone, sex (within marriage) is an expression of love. But it’s not love.
3. Love is not words. People may say they love you, but actions speak louder than words. It’s what a person does, that proves their love for you. You can say I love you till the cows come home, but if there is no action behind it, I doubt it’s real love. When you love someone, you want to show them. It’s not about lip service.
I’ve seen some strange things that people call love. I’ve seen people say they love each other, but they sleep with other people. Well that is not genuine. If you really love someone, why are you sexually involved with someone else?
Love is not obsession. Sometimes you can love someone, but you might need to let them go. If they are meant to be in your life, God will do it. There is nothing more liberating than to accept that you may not end up with the one you love or want. Love never possesses.
I am going to allow God to bring me a love that is true. Actually that is what I am doing. And ladies, make sure he really loves you. There is nothing worse than a woman wooing a man in my opinion. Men should not be pursued. You may win him for a minute, but then he will move on, to what he really wants.
God is love and he knows who and what is best for us. Trust HIM to bring you that true love!
1 Corinthians 13:13
New International Version (NIV)
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.