Everyone likes to be flattered. We all like compliments and want to be built up, but the Bible say too much flattery will lead to ruin. I was amazed when I found this scripture and as I studied it I realized that the danger of flattery is that it gives us a false impression of ourselves. No, I am not saying we should tear people down, but constant flattery is a trap that leads to ruin. Here is what the scripture says:
Amplified Bible (AMP)
28 A lying tongue hates those it wounds and crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
Let’s look at the definition of ruin:
Verb (used with object)
There are two sorts of lies equally detestable. A slandering lie, the mischief of this every body sees. A flattering lie, which secretly works ruin. A wise man will be more afraid of a flatterer than of a slanderer.
Isn’t that amazing!! A WISE MAN will be more AFRAID of a flatterer than a slanderer. So a flatterer is more dangerous than a liar. But actually I would run from both. I have encountered people who I caught in lies and they just continue to lie even though they have been found out. Now that to me is dangerous and guess what? A flatterer is worse.
I told a story on here once about meeting a man and within 15 minutes he went into a barrage of flattery. I mean, I was the best thing since sliced bread and yada, yada, yada. And guess what?? It kind of worked. I actually called the guy because it fed something in me. But I realized immediately that this man didn’t know me. I think it was a trick of the enemy.And the enemy knows what we are susceptible to.
I also think it’s interesting that the Bible puts flattering lips a lying tongue together, but you can pretty much figure out why. When people flatter you all the time, they end up lying to you. First of all a flatter wants something from you. They have a hidden motive. And if they have a hidden motive, they will also lie to you to get it..A flatterer will say one thing to your face and say another thing behind your back and that makes them a liar.
We must give people time to reveal who they really are, especially if they are constantly flattering us, which the bible says ends in ruin.