There is nothing worse than being connected to a double-minded person. It can be like riding a roller coaster. So many ups and downs. Never steady.

I do understand where it comes from though. It comes from not knowing the will of God for your life. Now I’m not saying that we know everything all the time about God’s will. Quite to the contrary. Sometimes it takes years before you can understand what God’s will is for your life. The problem comes when you make promises about things that you are uncertain of. If you are unsure then keep your mouth shut!

Let’s use relationships as an example. It’s like a man who is uncertain about who his future mate is. Well if you are not sure, don’t promise anyone anything. Don’t lead multiple women on at the same time because you are afraid to let anyone go. If you let someone go, and they are the right person for you, trust that God will bring them right back to you.

But if you are double-minded, the Bible is clear that all you have to do is ask God. Be it career, geographical move, or marriage. ASK GOD to show you. And then there is what I like to call  “go see”. Sometimes we have to check some things out to really know.

I remember greatly admiring this prophetess who used to come to my brothers church years ago. I loved the way she flowed in the gifts of the spirit and gave accurate words from the Lord. I was truly enamored with her. But one time she came to our church to minister and she stayed in our home and I was so disappointed. I had built her up to be this spiritual giant and she was the opposite. She was very insecure and just so different from what I expected. Not a hypocrite or anything like that. She was just different from what she appeared to be.  But I had to see for myself.

Sometimes we just have to see for ourselves. But whatever you do, don’t make a promise based on a “go see”. If you are just checking something or someone out, just do that, and keep it to yourself. And don’t build hope in someone’s heart when you know you are unsure.

James 1:5-8

New International Version (NIV)

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.