Love Series: Watch His Actions

You Must Work to Win a Lady’s Heart

Ladies, have you ever looked back and remembered those guy who jumped through hoops to get your attention? Some times it’s good to look back and remember, even if it was just last month. But recently I was looking back to when I was attending this church when I was living in NY. The church was in a nearby commuter state.

The Pastor of the church was single and gorgeous and every woman in the church seemed to want him. But he was very much interested in me and he showed it with his actions. I have to chuckle because every time I came home from church I had a story to tell. The man was wooing me as much as he could as the pastor of the church.

I’ve got about 50 stories, but I remember so well how I traveled to hear him preach in New Jersey and in true New York fashion, I travelled via the train etc. I ended up having to take a cab to the church and when I called for directions to the church, he told me he would pay for the cab. Okay, maybe not such a big deal, but what happened was the person who had the money was not waiting at the door so I just paid for the cab and thought I would allow him to reimburse me later.

Well, I was not ready for what happened next. As I entered the lobby of the church and began to come in the door (I was late and he was already preaching) he stopped mid-sermon and proceeded to ask me about the money. Well, stunned and embarrassed because the ENTIRE church was looking at me, I choked telling him that I had laid the money out. Everybody was watching and I hurried to my seat. After the service, he handed me a huge wad of money and his actions spoke for themselves.

By this point the church was already hating on me because this was not the first time he had made such a big public fuss. The last time, he preached a sermon called “Esther is in the House” and singled me out in the middle of the message. Yes, it definitely got my attention.

Prior to me leaving the church for good, he did some hurtful things, like trying to make me jealous. He was trying to get me to move to that state that the church was in (where he lived) so I think he thought jealousy would motivate me. But using another woman does not make me jealous, it makes me back off all together. So I left the church. After I left the church for good and started attending my brothers church, one of the members sent word that had I not left I could have had him as my husband. So why didn’t it happen? Well God showed me some things in a dream and so He knows what is best.

I am sharing this because if a man really wants to get a woman’s attention, actions speak louder than words. Ladies, that is how you know it’s the real deal. Boaz is a provider and help and that is just the truth of the matter. Even though, I did not ultimately end up with that man, his actions showed me where his heart was.

I’ve laid out a series of “fleeces” to God about my future mate. Certainly, actions speak louder than words. When you see some action, you’ll know it’s real and he is the one.

Ruth 2:8-10

GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)

Boaz Speaks With Ruth

Boaz said to Ruth, “Listen, my daughter. Don’t go in any other field to gather grain, and don’t even leave this one. Stay here with my young women. Watch where my men are reaping, and follow the young women in that field. I have ordered my young men not to touch you. When you’re thirsty, go to the jars and drink some of the water that the young men have drawn.”

10 Ruth immediately bowed down to the ground and said to him, “Why are you so helpful? Why are you paying attention to me? I’m only a foreigner.”

The Exit Strategy

I’m reading a book called The Exit Strategy which is a book about breaking through Satanic gridlock, through prayer and fasting.

Yesterday I had an epiphany and realized that something was missing. Some things are being hindered and the season for suffering is over. But it’s not that simple. Some of us have to fight tooth and nail to move forward because of Satanic hindrances.

Sometimes, I look at the world and see sinners getting things so easily, and then the people of God have to struggle and really it’s all about roadblocks and hindrance coming against the people of God.

Let me give you an example: The sinner man will use his money on alcohol, drugs, pornography, paying for his mistresses house and car or his girlfriend to meet his needs. He buys too much stuff and wastes money on grown-up toys, when he could be helping someone else. But the Godly man will bless the Kingdom of God and the people of the household of faith. He won’t give to those who don’t need it.

So the Godly persons money will be hindered because the enemy knows he will do the right thing with it. He won’t waste it on more of what he already has. That was a natural example.

I recognize that there have been roadblocks put in my way that don’t seem to budge and that is because what I and many of you are dealing with is spiritual and not natural. So we need a strategy to fight against the enemy and that is through prayer and fasting.

Every Christian should live a fasted life. It’s the ONLY way, you can live is total victory, but when faced with problems, few will actually exercise that kind of discipline, but in my case I can’t take the roadblocks any longer. It all boils down to how bad you want to be free.

Mark 9:29

New King James Version (NKJV)

29 So He said to them, “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.”


Yesterday, I started having the most vicious allergy attack ever. Growing up, my brothers would have to go and get shots for allergies, but not me. 😉 But suddenly as I have gotten older, every so often I have the worse attacks. sneezing 10 times in a row, all day.

It doesn’t happen that often and honestly I am baffled by why it’s happening now (meaning this time of the year) I thought spring brought the pollen. Anyway, I should have taken a pill earlier. I found these allergy pills that I usually only have to take one and then it’s the attack is gone.

I really dislike being sick. Well not sick, but just not feeling myself. Well, nothing deep tonight. Just feeling miserable.

The Beginning of a Breakthrough

If you read my blog regularly, you know that I try to follow God, literally. A little radical for some, but it’s about the prophetic call of God on my life, which I answered years ago.

Today the Lord gave me a very specific instruction and I obeyed even though I was very tired. I had not rested well the night before and when I finally did fall asleep, I only slept for about three hours and let me tell you, I am not one who can get by on that amount of sleep. To feel rested I need seven to eight hours. I have always been that way. My mother told me I was a good baby that slept for long periods of time. 🙂

Well, even though I was tired, I had to do what the Lord instructed me to do and boy am I glad that I obeyed. Honestly, I had a certain expectation, but I got more than I bargained for, in a good way. I see the breakthrough right in front of me and it is so sweet.

To say that I have gone through some rough times is an understatement. But the other day I was listening to a message about suffering and I realize that today, you no longer hear messages about suffering and it’s really messed the Body of Christ up. Now, if you suffer in the church, people think something is wrong with you. But suffering is sometimes necessary, in order for God to work certain things out of us.

Didn’t mean to go there, but that truth needed to be shared. But no suffering lasts forever. Finally it will come to an end, when you least expect. That is what happened to me yesterday. When I least expected it, I can say I see the breaking of a new day!!

1 Peter 5:10

New King James Version (NKJV)

10 But may[a] the God of all grace, who called us[b] to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.

What Have You Done For Me Lately?

For some reason, I keep hearing the above title in my spirit. I know Janet Jackson sings a song with that title, but I am not that familiar with the song. This evening I heard a message on television and the minister was talking about one-sided giving in a relationship. Not just love relationships but any relationship.

He was saying even the most giving person will get tired, if they don’t see any reciprocation from their giving, which is true. After a while you get tired and lose the desire to be in the relationship if the person never gives anything in return.

So if you find someone putting a lot of requirements on you in a friendship, or love relationship, and they do absolutely nothing in return, maybe you should ask that person, “what have you done for me lately”? 🙂 After all, even God gives back to us when we give.

Luke 6:38

New International Version (NIV)

38 Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

A Contaminated Outlook

Yesterday, right before I woke up, I was dreaming that I was married and that all my insecurities were gone. I was happy, My concerns about marrying late in life and my concerns about being a wife were gone. I was able to meet my husbands needs, in all aspects. These are things that I have been concerned about.

Later, I was listening to a minister online and the message was an answer to my prayers. The tears finally began to flow as I listened and heard the answer to the questions I had asked..

The truth is that I knew something was wrong, but I couldn’t really put my finger on it. But the message that I heard was about needing a complete healing. Sometimes God brings us out, but because of life, we regress and go back.

In my case it’s been years of disappointment. Even the bible say that hope deferred makes the heart-sick. For me it’s been trusting God and living the way the bible says I should and never marrying and having children.  Then someone I loved married someone else. Then I trusted God for my mothers healing and she died!

The struggles have been many and I’m sure many of you can identify. Then 8 years ago, I lost everything I owned. My past, memories, photos, clothing…I mean EVERYTHING! I am not materialistic, but I never realized how much our “things” define us, until I lost everything. The pain just left last year!

Well here I am with God’s promises, but my attitude was just not right. Something was missing and I kept feeling a disconnect, even though I love God. Yes, I am saved, have faith, but honestly I had become jaded big time. My outlook on the promises was contaminated.

The message I heard yesterday opened my eyes. I saw myself clearly, and I’m sharing this because as Christians we tend to live in denial. But there is nothing like desperation for truth. That is what happened to me. I had become desperate. As the tears flowed, I saw where I was.

I keep talking in the past tense because I decree by the blog of Jesus that I am leaving that contaminated, jaded outlook behind!!

Gone is the negativity that made me function in fear, instead of faith!

If you can identify with this word in any way, know that when you come to God in desperation, He will answer!!

John 8:36

New International Version (NIV)

36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

Here is the link to that message. It will be online until Wednesday. You can fast forward to the message since the record the entire service.