Pop Culture: The Consequences of Reckless Living

Chad Johnson and Evelyn Lozado

Recently, Miami Dolphin football player Chad Johnson was arrested for head butting his wife of 41 days, reality TV star Evelyn Lozado. The press reported that they got into an argument when Evelyn found a receipt for a box of condoms in his car. Within days, Chad and Evelyn’s reality show, set to start in September was cancelled, Chad was kicked off his team and Evelyn filed for divorce. Yes, all of this after 41 days of marriage.

Several women begin to emerge sharing stories of how Chad cheated, in the days leading up to the wedding. It’s said that Chad met the women on the social networking site, Twitter.

When I heard the story, I wondered why so many men think they can continue to live recklessly without suffering any consequences. Perhaps, it’s the male ego. I’m not a man so I don’t know. Honestly, I thought to myself that someone must be praying for Chad because clearly God is trying to tell him something.

I am reminded of a similar situation that happened with a family member many years ago. He got involved in some unholy relationships and his wife went around and exposed him to all of his ministry friends. Right before it happened, I remember a minister prophesied and warned him of this impending situation. It was the enemy trying to destroy him, but God allowed it for divine discipline. I must say the discipline worked, because he was never the same. He came out of the situation changed.

The only result of reckless living is something bad. Rarely do people walk away from such blatant sin unscathed. Usually something bad has to happen, but if the person comes out a better person, then it’s a good thing.

I pray that Chad Johnson come to know Jesus and change his ways and the same for his wife. Even she had been reckless and violent against some women as well. I am not justifying what her husband did, but sometimes we, reap what we sow.

If you are living in a reckless, lawless way, now is the time to change. Not tomorrow and next week. Next week may be too late.

Galatians 5:19-21

The Message (MSG)

 19-21It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on.

This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God’s kingdom.

Forbidden Love

I was watching Oprah Winfrey’s Next Chapter and she was interviewing actor Kelsey Grammer (Cheers, Frazier) and after discussing his long successful career, Oprah delved into his personal life.

Kelsey had a very difficult life with several deaths and the tragic rape and murder of his sister and my heart went out to him. Clearly, this impacted him greatly, with him dealing with addiction and broken relationships.

Now on his third marriage, with a young daughter, he shared how he met his 3rd wife. She was a flight attendant and they shared their story of “love” even though he was still married.  I had to chuckle because Oprah boldly brought that point out. Kelsey did admit that he was still married, but did what adulterers generally do. They proclaim their marriage was already over and justify why they moved on.

I was disappointed to hear his wife say that she fell in “love” as if falling in love with another woman’s husband some how justifies adultery. But to her credit she did say she was sorry for the way it all came about. That was a pleasant surprise because in show business, people routinely justify adultery.

What I saw in Kelsey was a broken man, who felt unloved by his wife and felt genuinely loved by his mistress at the time. He was a prime candidate for adultery. Not blaming his former wife, but it was kind of obvious this man was deeply wounded. Kelsey was a broken man looking for love, and if it came in the form of the other woman, it didn’t matter.

I’ve seen it time and time again. People trying to build happiness on the ruins of a broken marriage. You know; her husband doesn’t treat her right, or his wife no longer loves him, so that gives the mate license to move on to another relationship, before the marriage is officially over, shutting the door on any possibility of healing.

Here’s the problem. Rarely, does that work out. I’ve seen it over and over again. The truth is, no matter how much you think you love her and she loves you, the foundation is wrong and somewhere down the road, it’s going to crumble.

This is for someone today. Come out of that adulterous relationship TODAY! And don’t go back. Change your phone number, and stop meeting. Cut if off cold turkey. If you don’t God is going to allow it to be exposed!

Warning Against the Adulterous Woman

Another Level of Surrender

Through the cracks of brokenness in our lives, God allows us to see that only with Him, and in Him is our real security and abiding strength.

Honestly, there are times when I don’t know what else I can give to the Lord; and yes, I know I have not arrived. I just feel there is no more to give up. I feel as though He is “breaking” me and when I feel like I can’t be broken any more, there is another level of breaking.

Whatever is on the other side of this must be great because I have yielded so much. But of course there will always be another level of surrender.

Jeremiah 18:3-4 GOD’S WORD Translation (GW)

I went to the potter’s house, and he was working there at his wheel. Whenever a clay pot he was working on was ruined, he would rework it into a new clay pot the way he wanted to make it.

A New Assignment

I answered the call of God on my life many years ago, so that means I am called to do what God wants me to do. Every call is not about being in the pulpit. The prophetic call is more about following and proclaiming what God tells you to do.

Yesterday, I shared about letting go of the old and embracing the new, and in my case, it’s a continuation of the former assignment, but now it’s going to another level. I knew this season was coming and I sense it is here.

I knew God was calling me to help someone out of something, but I didn’t know the details of it when God first showed it to me. But recently God revealed the details of the new assignment and I am ready to obey. There is a sense of urgency, because if this issue is not dealt with very soon, someone stands to be ruined.

I’m reminded of Deborah and Barak in Judges 4. Deborah was a prophetess and a Judge with God given authority. Because of their sins, God allowed Israel to be conquered by King Jabin. The ruler of his army was Sisera. In the midst of them being conquered, the Israelites cried out to God for help.

Deborah was a woman of authority so she appointed Barak to go out and fight Sisera and his army. Barak only agreed to go if Deborah would go with him. God used Deborah as a support system and if you read the story, you see that Jabin, Sisera and the army were all defeated.

There are some battles that we will encounter in life, and we won’t be able to go through alone. That is when God sends someone along to help and see us through. And yes, in this case God used a woman. Some men have problems with that, but sometimes God will use a woman to help you out.

I know God is calling me to walk with someone through a great storm. I saw it many years ago and I sense that season is upon me. Barak trusted Deborah and sometimes we have to trust God and then trust who God tells us to trust. The Lord knows what he is doing and that is why he sometimes shows us the end at the beginning. Though the storm may be raging, you will make it to the other side…but only with that God-given help.

Judges 4:8-9

New International Version (NIV)

Barak said to her, “If you go with me, I will go; but if you don’t go with me, I won’t go.”

“Certainly I will go with you,” said Deborah. “But because of the course you are taking, the honor will not be yours, for the Lord will deliver Sisera into the hands of a woman.” So Deborah went with Barak to Kedesh.

An Interesting Week


As I shared earlier this week, I made the decision to cut some things from my life and honestly it feels great. As I thought about it, I realize that sometimes we have to get rid of the old before the “new” can be ushered into our lives.

Six years ago, I started an assignment and followed God’s instructions from February to May. Then the Lord said stop. Well, by August God showed me in a dream that a more direct door of access was being opened to me. But that only happened because I shut the door on  the old form of communication.

I’m not sure what is going to happen as a result of me cutting some things off this past week, I just know it’s necessary in order to move forward into whatever God wants to do next.

Let go of the old method and embrace the new and see what God will do.

Isaiah 43:18-19

Good News Translation (GNT)

18 But the Lord says, “Do not cling to events of the past or dwell on what happened long ago.19 Watch for the new thing I am going to do. It is happening already—you can see it now! I will make a road through the wilderness and give you streams of water there.