I’m certainly not an expert on love. I don’t think any of us has all the answers. But I do know that love is a prerequisite for marriage. Yes, you absolutely should be in love with the person you marry, but that doesn’t mean you will always marry a person because you fall in love with them.
I love this scripture:
Song of Solomon 2:7 International Standard Version (ISV)
7 Swear to me, young women of Jerusalem,
by the gazelles or by the does of the field,
that you won’t awaken or arouse love
before its proper time![a]
I believe there is a proper time for love and falling in love at the wrong time can bring great hurt and pain, especially if you fall in love with someone who is not destined to be in your future.
I am learning about love and I truly believe that it’s not a good idea for a woman to proclaim her undying love for a man who has not expressed it first. Now this is just my little theory. You may fall in love, woo him and win him with your love, but in the end it may not turn out well for you because either he doesn’t feel the same way, or he is not the person for you.
There is a proper time for love! And that time is when God has done the matchmaking and brought those two people together and they have the time to get to know each other and fall in love.
I still believe in the old-fashioned way. Meet and get to know each other and fall in love. I know we live in the online age when people can skip the meeting part and fall in love online, and maybe it works for some, but God has his time and place and I trust Him with that area of my life.It’s hard to let go of the reigns of control and yield in this area. We think we know best, especially when we think WE have found the one.
I know this may seem presumptuous, but God has used me to see for others accurately in this area and I shared something God showed me about a mate with a friend and she REFUSES to accept it even though it’s been shown to her and God allowed me to interpret some dreams about this. Well guess what. She has some more yielding to do. But guess what? If we wait long enough and make enough mistakes we will learn the lesson of not arousing love before it’s proper time!